| Name: Tori_anorexic | Date: May 3rd, 2008 10:51 AM |
| Im 14.. Wow most people who say they have or had an ED started at age 14. Thats very interesting. Im anorexic and have been for 1 year now. I use to weigh 120 lbs, Now i weigh 76 lbs. I have yet to get help because nobody really has noticed my serious loss in weight my mom and step dad are dealing with their own problems.. after reading this i know it would be best to get help.. ↑ |
| Name: Daisy2626 | Date: May 4th, 2008 9:46 PM |
Hi, I am 15 and someone who has struggled with my weight for nearly a year. Personally to me, your daughter sounds as if she is doing exactly what i do or would do. There are many websites and even special chat rooms for parents to discuss about whether their children have an eating disorder or not. Whatever happens will happen though and if i had to give you one piece of advice it would definately be 'dont push it' You cant force feed her if things get too bad. She may not have an eating Disorder but it sounds too me like it could be the start of one. I hope this helps coming from someone who knows a lot about the subject. Everything will be ok eventually. I'm sure you are a fantastic mum and will do what you feel is the right thing to do. I wouldnt try the scale thing again though because that is quite humiliating if you are sensitive about your weight and she could feel victimised. Take care,
Daisy2626
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| Name: emmytbeers | Date: May 26th, 2008 10:58 PM |
Im not sure, she could have an eating disorter, or she may just have something like OCD. Ill tell your from expeirence tho, you dont want to force her on the scale, all you want to do, is start talking to her subtly about things like body image. When i had my ED(eating disorder) i didnt do those things at all. well i would thro my lunch away, but my family didnt eat at a table or togethher really, so i would wait til every one got theirs, then i would go downstairs and throw stuff away or put it back in the pan. if you want to, i could talk to her. i am only 14, and i could help her out, you can refer to me as (my friends daughter) or something. just email me,
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| Name: TES | Date: May 28th, 2008 12:07 AM |
| Hi. My name is Taylor. I'm 15 years old, 5' 5" and weigh 104 pounds. I began my journey towards hell just as your daughter. First, just breakfast. Then, I just at a 90 calorie bar, and for lunch I measure out my cereal to be sure that I only have 120 calories. I even go so far as to measure out my milk, and the milk MUST be skim or else I wont drink it. I HATE the scale just as your daughter does, and avoid it at all costs. I am desperately searching for help and advise you to get a doctor's advice..before it goes too far. We (my family and I) let mine go too far. At best I eat a 90 cal bar, 120 cals in cereal, and a Skinny Cow ice cream, and a bite or two of dinner. I used to LOVE LOVE LOVE, food and Never had a real reason to worry about my wieght. I am VERY athletic, and shouldnt be concerned with what I am eating, but let it be known that Anorexia is a Psychological disorder and is one of the toughest to overcome. I am a competitive swimmer and swim all year round, along with Soccer, Water-skiing, and am also a Runner. I exercise obsesively and am often up untill 2am completing a workout. I know I need help, but I need advice first. Just some re-assuring words that I'm not alone. I hate who I have become and want to get back to who I once was. I have no motivation anymore, and have lost touch with my family and friends. I used to be the life of the party and now I am just the wall flower...Can someone please just let me know I'm not alone, and that there's hope for me. Thats all I need.... ↑ |
| Name: nicky168 | Date: May 28th, 2008 4:47 AM |
Teenage years are confusing and often (always??) difficult. But, you know your daughter better than anyone does. Is this a radical change for her?
I had anorexia/bulemia in my younger years. What brought it on was a feeling of complete suppression and it was the only thing I had control over - even though it was destructive. Was there abuse regarding your daughter? There was in my case. It all made sense later. If you're not sure maybe this is a good time for you to get in communication with your daughter. I would offer that sometimes it's hard to listen to difficult stuff, even if it's something else and not abuse. Chances are if she has not shared with you what is troubling her - even if there was not abuse - she is concerned about your reaction. Try to come from listening to whatever she has to offer and resist getting triggered for what it means about you as a parent. Obviously you have some concern so you know you are probably a good parent. Put that to rest and come from just wanting to know how this is for her. if you need some encouragement in this regard, consider that it's shame and secrets that are stressful. Kids that can openly express can usually handle anything. If you offer this to your daughter, would she open up?? I hope this helps..... ↑ |
| Name: Corinne | Date: Jun 10th, 2008 4:46 AM |
Erin,
I'm 15 years old and it seems as if you are my own mother talking. I don't know if this will help at all, but was your daughter slender before she started theses unusual eating habits? Well, when I was 14ish, I had people telling me constantly, "Oh, your so skinny. I wish I was like you." and, "You wear X size jeans?!" Secretly, I loved that kind of attention I got from those girls. It felt as if my skinniness was the only thing I had going for me... But all of the sudden it felt like, those comments that kept me going, stopped. I never had to try for my body being so skinny. I could eat two double-cheeseburgers from McDonalds, and nothing would happen. I was 14 and 98lbs. I was HUGE. I wanted so badly for those comments back that I started to not eat at all. I went Three days without eating. My mom totally freaked, but I told her it was for some church thing and we were detoxing or something. She wearily believed it, but I was on her radar. Awhile later, I weighed 92lbs. Now, I'm about to turn 16, 5' 7", and I weigh 87lbs. I'm actually pretty proud of myself. =] I rarely eat, and I FELT great. I FELT comfortable in a bathing suit and I can wear little girls clothes. It WAS amazing. But my doctor just recently told me that I have been diagnosed with severe depression. It didn't seem to be a big deal, but my mom was mentally beating me... I thought it was how all mothers acted. She would tell me, "Hunny, don't wear those jeans, they make your thighs look big." And when she got mad, she would scream and scream and scream profanities at me. Once, she got so mad that she was waving a knife in my face and she cut my knee open "on accident" and I had to get seven stitches. She told the doctor I slipped and fell while chasing my brother in the hall and sliced my knee open on the heater. She told me that if I ever told anyone, she would divorce daddy. Anyway, I now feel like there is nothing that matters any more. Anorexia sucks... Save your daughter please. Make her eat a bowl of ice cream. Don't let it get carried away like mine did. I wish that my brother would've killed my mother sooner so all this would've never happened. I bet I would've wasted away to nothing if she was still alive. My brother saved my life. But I am still anorexic. =[ It is the hardest thing to get rid of. Please take your daughter to a doctor even if it isn't serious. She wants the attention... give it to her. She is just doing this because she wants some attention. And don't say no, because you give her everything she wants and she is almost spoiled. That isn't the point... It isn't about what materialistic items you get... Save her... ↑ |
| Name: charlie - anorexic suffer | Date: Aug 4th, 2008 4:45 PM |
hey erin. i kniw u sent this like 3 years ago so im guessing ur daughters like my age now and how is she did u hav an eating disorder as u suspected?
as u can tell by my name im an anorexic suffer and have bn for over a year now, im nearly 17 btw. and these are both symptoms of having an ED and normal growing up. when i was ur daughters age i locked my family out but thts not to do with anorexia as all kids do tht, its just the "im independent dont need u anymore thing" tht we get at tht age. but her anger at u asking to c her weight and her telling u shes eaten when u never c her is all signs of an eating disorder. if she still has these now then take her to a doctor before it gets to late. one of my friends is also a suffer and i wish we could get her help as its now to late to do so. i hope to one day recover from this but u nd to want to in order to do so, so if u is a suffer then support her but dont push her into recovery as all she will do is relapse so ju have to wait until she realises she has a problem and that she wants help to get better.
i hope tht ur daugther is well and dear god if she is not an eating disorder suffer then get her to realise how devistating it is beofre iuts too late. as i wish i had a family like u who notied these things then maybe i wouldnt be iun this mess
from charlie xx ↑ |
| Name: Anon1 | Date: Aug 13th, 2008 6:07 PM |
I'm 13 and beginning to suffer from an eating disorder
It sounds like she's going through what I'v been going through
My mother doesn't understand but it sounds like you do so there is hope
just talk to her about it, and tell her you can help her, she'll want to lose weight so tell her that you will help her lose it, if you help her by getting her a membership at a gym and getting low calorie meals then she will get what she wants in a healthy way, but maybe she just wants attention, it's best if you saw a doctor with her
Best of luck xx ↑ |
| Name: BalletAllTheWay | Date: Aug 22nd, 2008 12:49 AM |
hi Erin my name is Susana and I am a recovering anorexic and to answer your question if I were you I would be worried and try and talk to her about it because thats how I began my mood started changing and I didn't want to talk to my parents or anybody for that matter I was always wearing baggy clothes and made up excuses whenever someone asked if I ate or not I would just shrug and say "oh yeah I already ate" and just make fun of the situation but truly it hurt me deep down! So if I were you please talk to her but in a civiliazed way the last thing your daughter wants is for you to just come at her so fast and rude and just tell her that you think or assume stuff because that will truly make her not want to say it even more! Or even wait and see if she comes to you but if it gets to be too much then you got to be the one to confront her! Like I said I dealt with this alot I started at the age of 12 and I am 18 now so I have been dealing with it for a while now! I hate it and at your daughters age you just feel like you can't talk to anyone and you know what see whats going on with her school maybe something is happening or she is getting stressed or even depressed, all these things can lead to an eating disorder!
Okay I hope it helps and if you want to talk to someone please feel free to talk to me I am here for anyone who needs help :) and I hope this helped at least a little ↑ |
| Name: wnnb.thin_ABI | Date: Sep 7th, 2008 7:14 PM |
heey. i'm 13years old anorexic girl. i've lost 16lbs in last two weeks, but i'm still not happy with myself. everyone are always saying to me how skinny i am... and i feel guilty cause i lie to everyone how much i eat all the time and how i didn't even notice my weight loss.
just another 35lbs and you can see smile on my face again ;). ↑ |
| Name: zeinabghamloush | Date: Oct 3rd, 2008 2:24 PM |
| hi my name is zeinab ghamloush please i have ANOREXIA and i hope to talk any one having the same situation and my age is 15 and she will be the friend that save my live ↑ |
| Name: zeinab | Date: Oct 3rd, 2008 2:26 PM |
| my email is [email protected] plz contact me ok dont forget my name is zeinab ghamloush ↑ |
| Name: alexis.xo | Date: Dec 28th, 2008 7:56 AM |
hello i need to talk to someone because i think i have an eating disorder
[email protected]
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| Name: Kaye_16_ | Date: Jan 9th, 2009 11:12 PM |
| hey im 16 and apparently i'm anorexic. I just want to say that when people know about it, things get harder to getback in control and things just spiral becauase there's no point in eating a bit at home to hide it! I really wouldn't push it but then again i've been in teh same circle for over a year and it's got so bad my friends have noticed and I'm even worse now my parents are starting to notice and im spiralling even worse DON'T LET HER KNOW YOU KNOW! ↑ |
| Name: stacy_villa | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 6:49 PM |
| what things do u eat how do i lose weight i hate my body im disgusting please help me i really really want to lose weight my email is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Sofia | Date: Sep 8th, 2009 7:33 PM |
I'm 28 now and I started with anorexia when I was 11 and it has dominated my life ever since.
I was told I would never be able to have children because of how much I've messed up my body over the years . . unfortunately my anorexia was joined by loadsa other issues like self harming and many many overdoses.
I'm a dancer and fitness instructor (so totally went into the wrong kind of profession - being as image conscious as it is - when I've got all these issues!!!!!!) and fortunately in a weird kinda way I had a really bad injury before Christmas last year and by being unable to train and run the ten miles per day that I normally did I put on a few pounds and shockingly got pregnant . . . even though I've probably only had around twenty periods max in over ten years!!!
I'm so excited that my baby is due this week, and it really seems like a miracle that I'm having a baby at all, but I've had a really tough time while I've been pregnant.
In the last four years I had managed to find some degree of balance. I didn't want to return to hospital again like I spent my teenage years being force fed, so I've lived off just enough to maintain a weight the doctors don't bitch at me for, but my eating disorder still rules my life and I think it always will.
But by being pregnant I've had to put all that aside. It's not about me now, it's about my little baby, and I've had to eat to make sure baby gets enough, and I've been so poorly throughout that I had to stop running and training and piled on the pounds! It's been terrifying., I'm bigger than I've ever been in my life. I've completely lost control because my body has changed so drastically and I can't imagine I'll ever get back to the way I was.
My boyfriend's worried that I'm gonna go back to eating just something once every 3 or 4 days like I did before I was pregnant, and part of me wants to because I really want to get this weight off so I can feel like me again, but we're having a little girl and I'm so completely terrified that she'll learn from me and end up going through the 17 years of hell I went through, so I know I've got to beat this.
But I feel so alone and no one really understands cos most of my family and friends thought all these issues had been laid to rest because I've managed to appear normal for the last few years. ↑ |
| Name: tabbii | Date: Nov 8th, 2009 11:50 AM |
i am 15 my mom was worried when my doctor told her i wont reach 16 i am still anorexic now if u see ur daughter looking at how many calories she is eating and if u want to talk to me or you daughter does just email me on [email protected]
i am happy to help
i know its hard and just look after your daughter like never before ↑ |
| Name: tabbii | Date: Nov 8th, 2009 11:53 AM |
| i tell you something keep an eye on you daughter and look after her more than ever b4 if you ar your daughter needs to talk to some one then just email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: euphoria76 | Date: Dec 16th, 2009 1:40 PM |
| No it is not just teenage rebellion.. You need to get her to a psychologist that specializes in eating disorders right away...Even if you start seing her eat again does not mean that she is somehow cured. It could just mean she has changed to Bulimia to get people off her back and to hide it better. I am 5' 3" and I weigh 87 lbs.. I hope you get the help she needs and you are a good mom to take notice and show your care and concern.. You have probably caught it early enough.. Way to go! ↑ |
| Name: noelle549 | Date: Jan 6th, 2010 10:26 PM |
| Im only 13 but i have a best friend who is anoriex... I am too... Im not getting better I dont want to get better... She feels fat no matter how skinny she is... One of my other friends only got better because her dead friend was haunting her and almost killed her... and her only other best friend left her... She will probably start cutting... Don'y lock her up it will only make it worse... Make her go completly out of your control... Im not going to get better, my friends arent going to better and she wont get better unless u rip out her brains so she is brain washed... Danger zone 95 Libs or below i weight 84 Ilbs. She wont get better until' someone dies... or leaves or almost tries to kill... All anoriex ppl are Winter girls... We are dead yet alive... We see what cannot be seen and ppl kall crazy (ghost, and dead thing like animals and bugs) ↑ |
| Name: laurajane | Date: Jan 11th, 2010 3:08 AM |
heya
i am awear that nobody will probably read this now but im 15 ive had an eating disorder since march 2009 and since then i have lost 42pounds. okay first of all dont jump to conclusions she maybe anorexic but she may also be bulimic. dont push her on the scales thats our worst fear and anyway its not about the weight you dont have to be underweight to be anorexic. thats how we think we think that we much be underweight to receive help, she will be ashamed of her weight so dont force her. dont exspect her to get better you can force some one with an eating disorder to recover it wont work when they are ready they will let go of this in their own time. i hope all works out
much love, ↑ |
| Name: Maisie. | Date: Jan 12th, 2010 5:28 PM |
| A think i have an eating dissoreder a dont like food a dont even like to look at food please help me a dont no were to go who to tell what to doo !? ↑ |
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