| Name: mummy 4eva | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 7:46 AM |
my daughter started shaving when she was 11
your daughter is going to keep stuff from you that youll never find out about ↑ |
| Name: JenCarpeDiem | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 7:13 PM |
Why not let her know that you're aware of it by buying her a brand new razor. It's a bit of an embarassing subject to bring up now that everyone seems hair-free (and it seems most people pretend they're naturally hairfree - it's not something that teens talk about anymore) and confronting her might just embarass her.
She probably notices the hairs a lot more than others do because she's seeing all her friends start shaving their legs for PE/Gym class. Just let her do it, it'll make her feel grown up, avoid the "werewoman" taunts in gym, and it isn't causing any harm. :) ↑ |
| Name: Georgia | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 6:57 AM |
| When i started i was a little embarrassed, i know how she feels. She might be feeling insecure about shwoing her legs off and all but face it your little girl can't be a little girl for ever. She is starting to grow up and she needs you to be understanding and on her side of the battle. I hope you do the right thing and don't punish her. Asking her might be a good idea but do not yell be nice and assuring. ↑ |
| Name: twostepsback | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 2:17 PM |
I don't see it as a big deal, but it depends on a big deal.
if you don't think she knows you know, you should casually bring it up and ask her about it. ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 3:11 PM |
I think that you should talk to her about it. Tell her that you thought you were close enough that she would tell you these things.
I don't think she has to ASK to shave her legs, and I most definitely don't think that you should punish her for doing so. She isn't a little girl anymore and you and she are in for some awkward trial times! Remember back when you were turning a teenager and hormones kicking in and please go easy on her and be understanding. You don't want to scare her and then she won't feel comfortable about talking to you about ANYTHING. I am quite sure you don't want that!!
Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: Ari | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 3:20 PM |
| I agree that you shouldn't punish her for it, but you should definitely sit down and have a discussion with her. Make sure she knows how to do it without hurting herself. My mom bought me an electric razor because she 'just knew I was going to tear my legs up' with a straight razor, but I'm going to second the person who said to use hair removal cream instead. :) ↑ |
| Name: ani | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 4:27 AM |
| just wanted to asy i am 24 and have never shaved my legs.i am blonde and there is no need otherwise i will have to keep up with it.I do shave my armpits but that's it.I really do not think little girls need to be shaving.period! ↑ |
| Name: Sharla | Date: Jul 25th, 2006 11:31 AM |
| ani, not everyone is blonde though...... ↑ |
| Name: JenCarpeDiem | Date: Jul 30th, 2006 5:36 AM |
| Ani is right - little girls do not need to shave their legs - but a 13 year old is not a "little girl", she's coming into her sexual maturity and with that come the unsightly body hairs that western society tells us are ugly, so she wants to shave. It's hardly something worth all these mixed opinions. At least she's not going nuts and plucking her eyebrows right off.. ↑ |
| Name: seeingstars | Date: Aug 5th, 2006 3:22 AM |
| I think you should tell her you know but wished you have asked you first. and punshing her for it wouldnt be such a good idea because it was gonna happen sooner or later do you know what i mean? my aunt made me start to shave my legs when i was 12 and didnt tell my mother or ask. my mom did get upset about it but she figuerd it was time. I know how you feel you must think next are boys and that lot. but again i just found im pregnant for the first time so i could be wrong in this case. ↑ |
| Name: loveguide | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 7:16 PM |
| if she felt she was ready to start shaving her legs then she was ready. dont punish he for it, and dont tell her you know. She would feel humiliated. Just keep acting like before, puberty is hard for girls when their parents are always talking about it. She probably didn't tell you because she didn't want to be embarassed. Don't be sad. Be happy that she is growing up and learning to act for herself. ↑ |
| Name: kittiekat2994 | Date: Aug 16th, 2006 3:53 PM |
| I think u should just talk 2 her about it and then tell her she should never be afraid 2 talk 2 u about anything.If shes afraid to tell u about that then imagine if she did something really bad that she didnt know what 2 do and she was afraid 2 tell u. If u talk 2 her about the leg shaving thing and show her that its ok to talk 2 u about anything she will feel comfortable 2 come to u for anything, big or small. I m not saying she should never get in trouble for anything but just be careful how u handle situations like these so she will share everything w/u. ↑ |
| Name: Deborah66 | Date: Aug 21st, 2006 8:04 PM |
| Our daughter wanted to start shaving her legs when she was 11. She was on the girls soccer team at the time and said she said she would feel more comfortable without hair on her legs when she was wearing shorts for practice. I let her shave and I don't think it's a big deal. ↑ |
| Name: Miss.Punk | Date: Sep 21st, 2006 10:59 PM |
hey i am 13 and i think I am in the same situation i would recomend not bringing it up o if you do do it casually like in the middle of an average conversation
good luck any questions my e-mail is apunkielove2yahoo.com and my name is Samantha ↑ |
| Name: CutsBruises | Date: Sep 22nd, 2006 3:13 PM |
| Oh comon, its got to be embarasing asking you mum to shave your legs, its like a boy asking to shave his armpits... its gotta be embarassing for her, it might be not be the fact that she didnt want you to know but, not sure how to tell you. ↑ |
| Name: Nikola | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 5:01 PM |
well I am 13... I asked my mom if I could shave my legs and she said no... maybe when Im..alot...older... I got really mad... and... and stressed out... in the seventh grade (now in the 8th)
my grades started falling because I was soooooo stressed out..I could barely think right... ever since I first talked to my mom about it she started yelling at me.. so now I've noticed I don't tell her anything about my life... I can't start shaving because my mom would notice... my 11 year old cousin just started shaving..she didn't ask eighter but now her mom is like sure you can... your big now... when I heared I said I had to go and ran home and broke into tears... it's really hard not being able to shave my legs or armpits! and Im not kidding...I've cried so many times... my mom doesn't know how hard it is... I don't want to shave for boys... I am 13 but not into boys really.... I just want to shave because I hate being teased by other girls and I hate it when people stare.. this summer I kept saying I was cold and wanted to wear pants alot to hide it... but my mom made me wear shotrs and studd which got me so stressed out and upset...
I'm just saying don't let you're daughter go through the pain I am going through right now... if you have nay advice for me please let me know... I'm sure your daughter is a great girl.... ↑ |
| Name: Nikola | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 5:02 PM |
| shorts and stuff *** sorry typo ↑ |
| Name: Nikola | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 5:03 PM |
| Name: paulus | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 4:00 PM |
| I don't think you should punish her for shaving her legs without your consent. The big question is, "Why didn't she tell you?" If she is uncomfortable sharing the little things with you, do you think she will come to you when she really needs your advice. If you punish her for this she most likely will not confide in you in the future for fear of judgement. Try opening the lines of communication by letting her know that no topic is off limits, including shaving her legs. Offer to get her a personal shaver and creme. Let her know it is okay. You understand that she is growing up. ↑ |
| Name: Steph | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 2:41 PM |
| i did it too as everyone was doing it .. no punishment is needed .. but if you are really concerned suggest waxing cause shaving will make it thick and black.. she will do it anyway.. and also explain that you are not angry but disappointed that she didn't tell you.. make her comfortable about asking you about these things it will benefit you in the long run ↑ |
| Name: jen-mac-tennis | Date: Mar 25th, 2007 8:39 PM |
| im 13 and i dont shave because im too embarsed to ask my mom about it maybe thats how she feels too. i think u should just say hey look i no u started to shave thats ok but show her the real way just incase she doesnt no how and give her her own shaving gel and coll razor ↑ |
| Name: jen-mac-tennis | Date: Mar 25th, 2007 8:42 PM |
| i really need help i want to shave my legs but i dont no how to ask my mom any suggestions? ↑ |
| Name: jen-mac-tennis | Date: Mar 25th, 2007 8:54 PM |
| im goin to a weading in the summer and im 13 im a brides made so i really want to look nice im kinda a girly girl so how do i ask my mom about shaving ↑ |
| Name: push | Date: Mar 25th, 2007 10:09 PM |
| well if yours daughter thought she was old enough to do it then maybe you should let her its all part of growing up and part of being a girl it just one of those things u should be glad that at thirteen that is all she is doing in this day and age isnt it ↑ |
| Name: jen-mac-tennis | Date: Mar 27th, 2007 9:24 PM |
| Name: roseywosey | Date: Mar 31st, 2007 2:17 AM |
| its just hair.. no big deal =\ ↑ |
| Name: caityNnecia | Date: Apr 4th, 2007 7:15 AM |
| well me and my friend are 14 we both started in year 6 it was a little gift for one of ours graduation lol don't worry about it shell come round and tell you sooner or later she probably just felt a little self concious coz all her friends do it and she doesnt. ↑ |
| Name: PippaLou | Date: Oct 23rd, 2007 6:10 PM |
| WHY SHOULD SHE NEED TO ASK TO START SHAVING ?? ↑ |
| Name: daisy255 | Date: Oct 26th, 2007 9:49 PM |
| just tell her that you have noticed she is shaving her legs. give her some advice about shaving. just tell her, "honey, r u shaving, just want to let you know, the more you shave the faster it will grow" i don't know just be at sister level where she is not too embarrassed. ↑ |
| Name: ButterflyGurl13 | Date: Dec 3rd, 2007 9:00 AM |
| Yeaah...I remember my younger sister did that & i caught her just recently...I asked her if my mom told her it was ok & i asked her if she knew how & she lied & lied & lied maybe its just a thing but i told my mom about it & she just asked her why she didnt ask to shave. ↑ |
| Name: xKellyGirlx8 | Date: Dec 14th, 2007 1:20 AM |
| well, I started shaving when i was 11. i am only 12 now and i tried shaving my arm pits. it didnt go so well. :( someone try to help me. i got like little cuts when i tried. PLEASE RESPOND AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. ↑ |
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