| Name: loo laa | Date: Jan 27th, 2006 11:02 PM |
| no ive never had a baby before i would like to but i dunno yet the only thing i am scared about is giving birth to it if i do have a baby soon then im gonna promise my self not to take any drugs anyways cya ↑ |
| Name: NatAlIe~ | Date: Jan 27th, 2006 11:07 PM |
| hey people well, i kno this is kinda mad saying this but im scared of having a baby cos' like loads of people are saying that ill die and its really spooking me out i dunno what to say really.. cos there is so many people what has giving birth and they have been alright as far as i know of . and not very rair but some people have also died so im worrying what will happen to me lol ↑ |
| Name: chloe | Date: Jan 27th, 2006 11:15 PM |
| Natalie i have had a baby there is nothing to be scared of the best place of giving birth to is the hospital you dont want to give birth at home because then there is probly a BIG risk of dieing anyway there is so many drugs,medacines, all stuff like that to help you to get along with the pain as soon as the head's out the rest of the body slips out you not see any blood or anything because they have this like board thing across you so you carnt see anything. And last of all you have your family and friends there to supprt you 1 thing i am being honest i didnt feel anything but after giving birth about 10 mins after i got a few ache's in my back but what do you expect carrying a baby in you'r belly is not exactlly gonna be alright it like drags you down thats the only thing what anoyed me, oh yes you may be asked if you want this needle thing in you'r back it numbs it a little but after it wares away it does catch you a little and the only needle serious bit is if you'r vagina has split well thats all i can say its you'r choice if you would like a baby or not so im wishing you the best of luck take care love chloe x ↑ |
| Name: LR | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 2:44 AM |
SHANTE, go buy a cabbage patch doll honey!
you areway to young to think about babies when your just a baby yourself! ↑ |
| Name: Irene | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 2:59 AM |
Hi Shante,
having a baby hurts very much, im not going to lie to you, go borrow books and videos from library about childbirth and labour before you eev think about wanting a baby, you are way to young yourself thinking about wanting & planning, dont rush to grow up, whatever happened to painting nails, buying cool clothes, going to movies, hanging out with your friends,planning maybe a sweet 16th birthday party instead, completing school, going to college, getting a job!,
how about travelling, meeting a nice guy & planning your life together to be with eachother forever and together while hes in your life Supporting you, then think about having a child!,
you can forget all those wonderful things when you barely out of school and having a huge resposability of looking after a child, children are beautiful, thats why my husband and i have 3 and expecting our 4th in september & i still find it hard sometimes especially when you need to go to the store, i have to wait most of the times for Hubby to come home so i can run out really quickly, or most of times i have to take them with me, and if you dont have support from family its even harder,
think about all this before you decide you want a baby, i know every little girls fantasy is to have a baby girl, to dress her up in cute little dresses, tie ribbons in their hair, but us Mums we need break every now and then,
but atleast most of us Mums have lived our lives and so theres no turning back, you cant just go for a baby cause your going through that phase which you are,
and you cant just give them back after youve decided one day your tired and fed up and your sick of bering at home all day and that youve lost all your friends and while there all going out and living life at 16, you have another little person to take care of,
so Krystal, just enjoy being a kid and have fun!
labour hurts like you cannot even imagine, pregnacy is sometimes good, yet very uncomfotable, and if you have morning sickness you will be sick all the time and sometimes all day and night, if you like throwing up and being nausea all day, then go for it, what can i say,
having kids brings blessings to you and its unbelievable and a miracle from God, but i reccomend you wait for the right time, its only fair for the precious child after all!
take care Krystal, ↑ |
| Name: Irene | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 3:00 AM |
| oops, i wrote shante, sorry i meant krystal lol, shante was last girl i gave advice too hahaha, sorry krystal ↑ |
| Name: megan | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 11:03 AM |
| lads r so lucky! they dnt have 2 go through any pain atall whilst having a baby and SEX its so unfair all they have to do is watch n its like omfg the only pain they get is if they get hit in balls ...what do u fink ppl? ↑ |
| Name: Candy | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 2:47 PM |
| I think you sound really stupid. ↑ |
| Name: my 2nd | Date: Jan 29th, 2006 4:58 AM |
It's all about the epidural ! I can tell you for certain that women that try do it without the epidural, often regret it in the end.
Lorie Germaine ↑ |
| Name: latara batterham | Date: Jan 31st, 2006 2:35 PM |
| why does it hurt when you have a baby because i need to know how much it hurt ↑ |
| Name: CRYSTAL | Date: Jan 31st, 2006 2:50 PM |
| I have never had a baby,because im only 16.So I cant answer the question " does having a baby hurt " .. but really,i see all these 13 year olds saying they want babys .. when yu think about , yer TOO YOUNG .. like yu dont have the money to support a baby , yu dont have education to get a job to get the money .. so how are yu guna support it?Yer parents will NOT want to support yer baby all its life fer yu , and the little boys yu plan on having a baby with , wont take care of it obviously .. because he clearly is too young as well .. and then to think about how yer parents are guna feel that their little girl had a baby , when yer yer parents' baby yerself?babys DONT have babys .. it DOESNT work .. then what do yu think people will call yu around yer neighbourhood?a SLUT .. because little girls having babys / sleeping around etc. are considered sluts .. and thats not a good reputation to have .. so my advice to yu , is wait until yer older to have a baby ATLEAST 20/21ISH because , yu'll hopefully have yer education and a job and make sure that yer in a healthy relationship , that yu've been with the man for more then a year atleast and know hes responsible and things .. and dont even be eager to lose your virginity either .. yer guna regret it .. wait until yer older and your in a relationship with someone yu truly love .. and how are yu guna want a baby when you cant even spell properly?so WAIT until your OLDER ↑ |
| Name: Alicia | Date: Feb 2nd, 2006 7:04 PM |
| I am 20 years old and I have been married since I was 18. My husband and I have been dating since we were in 9th grade (14 years old) and we have a very tight knit close relationship. We are expecting a baby girl on March 10th 2006! We planned this pregnancy, and I bought the fertility test too just in case, and surprisingly it only took one time! We are financially stable and mentally and physically capable of raising her, and we are very mature for our ages. I look at myself, and I am so happy to be having a baby, but in a way you have to expect that your life will change forever because of this. It's a huge responisibility, and if you arent really ready, then you need to wait. It's well worth it to "have fun" and go hang with friends and do what you want to when you want to without the bothersome of a baby...so think about the pro's and con's of getting pregnant. Don't just get pregnant because "babies are cute" lol, it doesn't work that way. It's not a one day occurance, it's a life-time commitment. So be prepared and I promise it will be much more of an enjoyable experience, pain won't even matter! ↑ |
| Name: sandra | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 3:22 PM |
| duz it hurt when they cut tht belly button fing....embilicol cord ↑ |
| Name: melinda | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 1:54 AM |
depends, i had a horrible dificult birth with my daughter. 22 hours long and a tear that never ended. they called it a vaginal c section. ouch.
over all it is worth it.
good luck. dont be scared of the drugs they offer. ↑ |
| Name: zoe{} | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 2:56 PM |
| hey all im 17 and i really am ready to have a baby at this age i can trust my boyfriend cos he is always there for me and we have been going out for about 5 mounth now and i really think its worth while having a baby together where both ready and everything and he offerd to help it when it needs its nappy changing and everything,, anyway im really scared i always feel faint and i mean FAINT when i have needles! what am i gonna do? im thinking about not having any drugs atall but yet again ill be in so much pain! i dunno what to suggest i HATE needles :(:(:(:(:(:( WHAT THE HELL shud i do soz bout laungadge lmao! ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 6:26 PM |
| Melinda, I agree with you, I had a really long labor too, I was induced. Going into the secong day I took the epidural. There's no way I could have had my baby without it, he was bigger than they thought. How did you recover from your tearing? I tore all the way through to my rectum and had problems after my son was born. I would just like to compare notes with someone who's been there and been through this. ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 6:32 PM |
| To Zoe, I'm glad that you have found someone that you are ready to settle down with and start a family, but please make sure you are ready for all of the other things that come with a baby. It's a very exciting and stressful time for both parents, and it takes a lot of money to care for a little one. You're so young and have so many things to do yet, having a baby now will change everything for you. I made sure that I was done partying and went to college so I could get a good job. Also got married, I wanted a commitment. I had my first baby at 26, and I was nervous then about the amount of responsibility and change that was happening. Trust me, there are way more things to consider than the needle for the drugs, and when the time comes, you really won't mind the needle. ↑ |
| Name: shayka | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 11:47 PM |
| no it does not!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 5:15 AM |
| Obviously you have never had a child Shaykra, or you some really good drugs that you need to let us know about. ↑ |
| Name: chelsea | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 7:00 PM |
| omg shayka u must tell uz lol! what drugs did u use? ↑ |
| Name: UCMamma | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 8:15 PM |
First of all, you are WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too young to be considering a baby!!
Second, don't listen to these horror stories. I've had 4. The last one I had at home w/ NO midwife - just my husband and I - and research shows that home births get BETTER & SAFER outcomes for mother and babies than the hospital, so don't believe that lie either!
Is it painful? YES. But is it horrible? Absolutely not. It's a very different kind of pain - it has a purpose. The way you go in thinking of it makes a big difference too. The more afraid you are, the more pain. Learn all you can and relax and feel safe and it will go much easier. It's largely mind over matter.
..... but don't have any babies at your age! ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 11:18 PM |
| I'm not trying to scare anyone or make it sound horrible, but some of these young girls who shouldn't even be considering it are trying to decide whether or not to have a baby based on if it hurts?! That's a little out there. They should be waiting till they are old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibility, and they should want to be a mother to care for a child, not to hold on to a guy. If the pain scares them away till they are more mature and can handle the situation, then I think that's okay. ↑ |
| Name: Ashlley | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 5:18 AM |
| How bad does it hurt when first having a baby?I'm only 13 but want a baby around 16... ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 8:47 PM |
hi im not tryin to scare any body or make it seem horrible either but i though my story wud b an appropiate method of birth control for a 13 yr old who is wonderin if labour hurts.
i became pregnant with my baby at 16 and had him
at 17 last july. at first i was terrified but once i told my family n
boyfriend they were all supportive so i became exited. i stayed at
school throughout my whole pregnancy and i was still waddling up the road 8 months on. now my son is 7 months old and i love him more than anything. i was 10 days overdue and i got brought in to be induced on the 6th day after having 4 pessaries (which are painfull being inserted) which was the maximum amount, there was still no signs of labour beginning. on my 10th day overdue the midwife said to me it is likely that you will need a section so even though they knew i would need a section i was brought down to the delivery ward and had my waters broken, so my labour persued at around 10.oo am and by 10.00 that night i was wrecked, in agony,emotionally distressed and yet there was still no sign of my baby. the midwife began a forceps delivery because my baby was distressed which worried me even more but that didnt work either so after 12 hours of labour my baby was distressed and i got rushed in for a section.i did not feel anything in the op as it wasnt at all painfull aside from embarressment. after 4 days i was allowed to go home and i was in a lot of pain, one day i went to the toilet and blood was gushing out from my wound, again i was rushed back to hospital and they redone my dressings and gave me antibiotics for a slight infection. the very next day when my midwife came to do her check up i couldnt even lift up my arm to get my blood pressure checked and her exact words to me were "if u dont go into hospital now i dont fink u will be here by the morning" so i went back to the disastorous hospital to endure more embarressment for
another 3 days. during them 3 days i was painfully injected with
antbiotices 3 times a day (im terrified of needles) and i was also given an iron transfusion becaues i was anameic. my wound took just over 2months to heal and during that time i had to have help to walk, get dressed and yes even get bathed. but just when i thought it was never goin
to heal it closed up i am now back at school once more, and my baby is growing up beautifully.
i dnt want to scare any1 but i just hope this will put u young girls off baby's for at least 10 yrs, labour is embarressing and degrading and it has put me aff sex altogether im just trying to be helpful and stop you young girls goin through wat i have went through. and to the ones dat are pregnant im sorri if i have frightened you but all the above is just the story of my labour. (sorri it was long) ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 9:39 PM |
If the pain was that bad then people wouldn't go on to have more babies! My great-grandmother had 13!!!
Have an epidural - no pain at all! ↑ |
| Name: Alexa | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 12:08 PM |
God bless you Ami,
you are wonderful :-) ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 5:14 PM |
god bless you to alexa fiona my granny ahd 27 babies and 11 were still born 2 died from natural causes and one got murdered wen he was 36 because he was gay der is 13 left and we are very close she had all her labours without drugs maybe she was just lucky but just because she had so many def does not mean it is any less painful the reason y ppl have so many is usually
1) by accident
2) if they love kids
3)they just want more ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 8:16 PM |
| Thanks Amy! Nobody can put it better than to tell their story. It sounds like you had it rough, but maybe some of these younger ones will realize that it's not that easy to have a baby. Maybe they'll think about it before they jump in. When you are ready it is a beautiful thing and you go through with labor and delivery to get your child. You would pretty much do anything for them. Good luck with your baby, they are so wonderful! ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 8:36 PM |
| thank you chris i just wanted to scare other girls they onli see the rosy side of having a child and dnt understand the hardships. ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 8:41 PM |
| That's so true. Babies are great, but it isn't all rosy. Did we forget to mention the stretch marks? I will never wear a bikini again, and my chest sags too. Pregnancy is hard on your body. Enjoy being young, if you feel the urge to have a baby, go babysit. It's great, you get to cuddle them for a few hours then give them back and keep your great body, your money and get sleep! ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 9:05 PM |
| lol i totally agree i will never wear a bikini again either my body caoimhin has definately left his mark on me lol ↑ |
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